Post by MARIO on Jan 2, 2006 21:41:07 GMT -8
No such thing as a free lunch
By Rebecca Hagelin
Jan 3, 2006
International Best-Selling Author Brian Tracy has done it again: written a book that sears the conscience and challenges conventional thinking with deep thinking.
In his 38th book, Something for Nothing: The All-Consuming Desire that Turns the American Dream into a Social Nightmare, Tracy describes how mankind's inborn nature to be "lazy, greedy, ambitious, selfish, vain, ignorant and impatient" without regard to others, has plunged our nation into crisis.
Of course, the propensity of humans to expect and even scheme about how to get something for nothing is certainly nothing knew to the human condition or to Americans. And the devastating effects that such expectations and attitudes have on the individual and his personal character have been well-documented throughout history. As Thomas Jefferson once said, "The worst day of a man's life is when he sits down and begins thinking about how he can get something for nothing."
As any mother and father knows, perhaps the greatest challenge of parenthood is helping to create and shape little children who will spend their lives with a preference and propensity to give and earn, rather than to merely receive and take.
As Tracy points out, the best efforts of even the most loving and committed parents are often thwarted because we have failed to realize that one key ingredient in the recipe to raise children of character is to channel their natural drives into positive behaviors. This is especially difficult when all-around us our society and the public policy that governs our everyday lives rewards and encourages the "me first with no concern for others" attitude that is destructive to both individuals and civil society.
But Tracy won’t allow lazy parents to blame society for poor parenting. “The responsibility for raising happy, healthy children lies with their parents.” This is a point I drive home in my own book, Home Invasion where I remind parents (and myself) that I may not be able to control the overall culture, but I have the responsibility and privilege to determine the lessons taught within my own home. Tracy also reminds us, “Many parents want to get something for nothing in child rearing. They want to be seen as excellent parents without paying the price that this requires. How does a child spell ‘love’? Answer: ‘T-I-M-E!’ Something for nothing parents try to get by on the cheap, spending their precious and irreplaceable time in all the wrong places. The solution to the problems of marriage and parenting is simple. Spend more time with the people you care about the most.”
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By Rebecca Hagelin
Jan 3, 2006
International Best-Selling Author Brian Tracy has done it again: written a book that sears the conscience and challenges conventional thinking with deep thinking.
In his 38th book, Something for Nothing: The All-Consuming Desire that Turns the American Dream into a Social Nightmare, Tracy describes how mankind's inborn nature to be "lazy, greedy, ambitious, selfish, vain, ignorant and impatient" without regard to others, has plunged our nation into crisis.
Of course, the propensity of humans to expect and even scheme about how to get something for nothing is certainly nothing knew to the human condition or to Americans. And the devastating effects that such expectations and attitudes have on the individual and his personal character have been well-documented throughout history. As Thomas Jefferson once said, "The worst day of a man's life is when he sits down and begins thinking about how he can get something for nothing."
As any mother and father knows, perhaps the greatest challenge of parenthood is helping to create and shape little children who will spend their lives with a preference and propensity to give and earn, rather than to merely receive and take.
As Tracy points out, the best efforts of even the most loving and committed parents are often thwarted because we have failed to realize that one key ingredient in the recipe to raise children of character is to channel their natural drives into positive behaviors. This is especially difficult when all-around us our society and the public policy that governs our everyday lives rewards and encourages the "me first with no concern for others" attitude that is destructive to both individuals and civil society.
But Tracy won’t allow lazy parents to blame society for poor parenting. “The responsibility for raising happy, healthy children lies with their parents.” This is a point I drive home in my own book, Home Invasion where I remind parents (and myself) that I may not be able to control the overall culture, but I have the responsibility and privilege to determine the lessons taught within my own home. Tracy also reminds us, “Many parents want to get something for nothing in child rearing. They want to be seen as excellent parents without paying the price that this requires. How does a child spell ‘love’? Answer: ‘T-I-M-E!’ Something for nothing parents try to get by on the cheap, spending their precious and irreplaceable time in all the wrong places. The solution to the problems of marriage and parenting is simple. Spend more time with the people you care about the most.”
READ THE REST:
www.townhall.com/print/print_story.php?sid=180839&loc=/opinion/columns/rebeccahagelin/2006/01/03/180839.html